Trust

How do we learn to trust?
That is,
How do we learn to trust ourselves in our decisions
How do we learn to trust the people around us
How do we learn to know who to trust and who to not trust
When do we realize that our trust when unacceptably broken and destroyed can be rebuilt?

I have been wondering about this very much lately.

There are many areas of my life in which I wonder about trusting my own instincts and trusting my beliefs and trusting myself in making the right decision. Those areas range from the mundane day to day things to some very difficult life altering things.

Interestingly it is the mundane ones that we are continually questioning because the mundane things are the easiest to lie to ourselves about and therefore break our own personal trust with ourselves. It is also an area where I feel begins to bleed into my questioning and trusting what others say to me, about me or about others.
The mundane ones that won't change my life too much are around the following:
Trusting myself when I look in the mirror that what I see is really the image of me.
Trusting my body to tell me when I am hungry and when I am not.
Trusting my body to truly tell me when it is tired.
Trusting myself to tell my brain to back off because I can keep doing what I am doing and will get through it.

The life altering ones that are tough and feel like they will change my life significantly are the following:
Trusting a business person to be honest in a transaction involving money.
Trusting when someone says they will not do something or are not doing something that they are being honest.
Trusting the person driving in the car in oncoming traffic will stop at the red light.
Trusting my knowledge of statistics as I board an airplane or eat at a restaurant or drink a glass of water.

But in reality the above I can rationalize. All of the above have caused my trust in those things to be broken and for me to be "gunshy" or very hesitant in many different ways. Irrevocably changed. However, I still engage in all of those things. Flying, driving, eating out, drinking water, business transactions involving money, learning to trust people who are incredibly close to me.

It is my concern with the times when there is no gut instinct or feeling only confusion and fear or confusion and dread or in a worse case scenario confusion and no feeling at all. It is at these times when I feel my ability to decipher who to trust is completely gone because it has been broken by several people with whom I expected and deserved honesty in different business and personal relationships. It is then that I do not know the following:
1. Who to talk to in order to identify who to trust
2. Who to seek advice from in order to achieve optimal outcome for the situation
3. How to proceed in finding a way to trust my instinct again.

Unfortunately this leads to a ton of wondering around and indecision and loss on my part.

So one decision I've decided upon is to tell people whom I do not trust that I do not trust them. I've also decided to stick with seeking out independent resources who will help me gain the right advice but are not directly involved in the relationship.

So how do we deal with trust?